How to reward family, students or colleagues at work

In this video, we explain how you can use collaborative rewards to notice and appreciate others and encourage behaviours that are helping you to live or work together. Learn how you can do it in different settings: with children and family members at home, students at school and colleagues at work behaviours that are helping you all to live and work together.


AT HOME

How can we take time to notice how we are feeling at any point during the day, and how can you support your children to recognise how they are feeling? What behaviours have helped us to feel this way?

Using a collaborative reward such as adding marbles or pasta to a jar, or colouring in petals on a sunflower, you can notice and appreciate everyone in your family for behaviours that are helping you all to live and work together.

So, for example, you might praise your 6-year-old: ‘Thank you so much for supporting Ezra to build that last piece of the tower Sarah, it was kind of you to include him in your game’ and suggest ‘why don’t you put another marble in our reward jar’.

You can praise your partner too, ‘I really noticed when you did the extra washing up that’s been on the side, thank you’ and he or she also contribute to the reward; siblings can also notice and support one another. It’s also important not to take away a reward once it’s been given.

As a family you can choose a shared treat for when you have completed the reward- a film, perhaps, or making some food that everyone loves together. The system is not competitive because everyone shares in the family reward. These collaborative rewards can help to make sure everyone in your family has the opportunity to feel respected and valued.


AT SCHOOL

How can we take time to notice how we are feeling at any point during the day, and how can you support your colleagues and the children in your group to recognise how they are feeling? What behaviours have helped us to feel this way?

Using a collaborative reward such as placing marbles or pasta in a jar, or colouring in the petals on a sunflower, you can praise someone in your class or team for behaviours that are helping you all to play and work together.

So, for example, you might praise a class member: ‘Thank you for helping to tidy those books away, you are supporting us all to enjoy our class space’ and suggest ‘why don’t you put another marble in our jar’. It’s also important not to take away a reward once it’s been given.

You can praise colleagues too, ‘You really noticed I needed some support when I was feeling overwhelmed, I appreciated that cup of tea, thank you!’ and he or she also contribute to the reward.

As a class you can choose a shared treat for when you have completed the reward- a film, perhaps, or making some biscuits or cake together. The system is not competitive because everyone shares in the class reward. These collaborative rewards can help to make sure everyone has the opportunity to feel respected and valued by the people they are learning and thinking alongside.


AT WORK

How can we take time to notice how we are feeling at any point during the day, and how can you support your colleagues to recognise how they are feeling? What behaviours have helped us to feel this way?

Using a collaborative reward such as a shared document that everyone can add to, a space for praise post-it notes, or a picture for everyone to complete, you can acknowledge someone in your team for behaviours that are helping you all to work together.

So, for example, you might show that you have valued a colleague by adding a post-it note to your shared document: ‘you really noticed in the meeting that I was feeling a bit overwhelmed and checked in with me 1:1 a little later on in the day. That made such a difference to me – thank you’.

As a team you can choose a shared treat for when you have completed the reward- virtual drinks perhaps, or a team quiz. These collaborative rewards can help to make sure everyone has the opportunity to feel noticed and valued as well as helping everyone to notice and appreciate all the little kindnesses and helpful behaviours which are carrying on in different ways whilst we are all in these strange new ways of working.

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