How would you like to feel?

Mary Taylor, our Head of Programmes, shares in this video Family Links' recommendations on what we can do as family members, teachers, and as colleagues at work to support and communicate with each other during these uncertain and unsettling times.

Here you can find details and ideas about how to start collecting feelings:


AT HOME How would we like to feel as we live alongside each other over these next few weeks? Gather around a table or on the floor. If possible, find a large piece of scrap paper and some coloured pens. It is helpful if everyone is there together, although anyone who is missing can be invited to add their feelings to the list later. Write the heading on the top “How would we like to feel as we live alongside each other over these next few weeks?” Each person has a pen and can add feeling words to the list. Accept them all without comment. This works best if the feelings words are simply written all over the page, rather than attributed to any individual person. (This might be words such as safe, heard, valued, trusted, loved, respected, supported, light-hearted...). When everyone is happy that they have put down how they might like to feel, take a moment together just to look at them all, so that everyone’s feelings can be valued. Perhaps someone might like to read them all out. Agree on a place where this list can be displayed so that everyone can see it. If there are children in your household, they might enjoy turning this into a colourful poster, or so indeed might you!

AT SCHOOL How would we like to feel as we spend time together in school over these next few weeks? Gather around a table or on the floor. If possible, find a large piece of paper and some coloured pens. It is helpful if everyone is there together, although anyone who is missing can be invited to add their feelings to the list later. Write the heading on the top “How would we like to feel as we spend time together in school over these next few weeks?” Each person has a pen and can add feeling words to the list (or for those not able to write, one person can do the writing, ensuring that each person is heard). Accept them all without comment. This works best if the feelings words are simply written all over the page, rather than attributed to any individual person. (This might be words such as safe, heard, valued, trusted, loved, respected, supported, light-hearted...). When everyone is happy that they have put down how they might like to feel, take a moment as a group just to look at them all, so that everyone’s feelings can be valued. Perhaps someone might like to read them all out. Agree on a place where this list can be displayed so that everyone can see it. Consider turning the list into a brightly coloured poster. Adults and children/young people should contribute to this list. AT WORK How would we like to feel as we work together over these next few weeks? For those working remotely, use whichever online means for “meeting up” you have adopted and ensure that everyone in a team/your workplace has had the opportunity to add to the list of “ how we would like to feel as we work together over these next few weeks”. Accept them all without comment. This works best if the feelings words are simply written all over the page, rather than attributed to any individual person. (This might be words such as safe, heard, valued, trusted, loved, respected, supported, light-hearted...). When everyone is happy that they have put down how they might like to feel, take a moment as a group just to look at them all, so that everyone’s feelings can be valued. Perhaps someone might like to read them all out. Agree on a place where this list can be displayed so that everyone can see it. Perhaps it can pop up as a reminder for everyone, or form part of a home page?

This is Part 1 of a Covid-19 Support series - How to support and communicate with each other:

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